I've been thinking about some of the reasons why I want a biological child beyond the tugs from nature (wanting to feel a baby, know what childbirth is like, etc.). It's really not that I want one that looks like me, or hubby, for that matter (although I'd love to see hubby's gleaming Osmond-like smile in a child). I think I was (am) hoping for other traits that would probably come from the both of us. This is how I picture our child:

1) Tall (OK, that one is physical)
2) Intelligent
3) Curious
4) Talkative
5) Funny

I guess I've been thinking that it would be easier to understand a child more like us (well, me, because I often don't understand hubby). Like that would necessarily be the case. I know this is totally ridiculous, because how many biological parents and children really understand each other? I have a wonderful relationship with my parents. They are great, and we have always gotten along swimmingly. Do we always understand each other? Uh, no. And G's relationship with his father? Oh, my. I didn't even meet FIL until G's mom passed away a couple of years ago because G hadn't spoken to him for several years. His parents had divorced several years before I met G.

Anyway, would we love a child who wasn't

1)Tall? Hmmm...let me think...heehee
2)Intelligent? Intelligence is really in the eye of the beholder, isn't it?
3) Curious? Maybe they'd get into less trouble that way...
4) Talkative? That would leave more time for G to talk.
5) Funny? We could probably work on that. Make 'em watch a Monty Python marathon and write an essay?

OK, so even some of the things that seem important aren't really, in the long run. And I have more in common with many of my friends than I do with my sister. The biological ties aren't that important. That doesn't make me stop wanting to have a baby, though.